If you think it’s a problem, it’s a problem. If you know it is an opportunity, it’s an opportunity. One of the most assuring life principles is that each of us decides how life circumstances will affect our own being. We create and cultivate our mindsets. Use these 7 tactics to forge and maintain optimism:
Manage Your Expectations
Remove “should have,” “would have,” “could have” from your vocabulary.
Manage the expectations you place on yourself and others. Be sure that they are appropriate and realistic. You can challenge your expectations by asking yourself why things should be a certain way and understanding why you have placed these beliefs into your life.
Align your expectations to your values and purpose. Then instead of focusing on the “shoulds,” focus on the “is.”
Be Graceful and Grateful
Remain forgiving of yourself and grateful for the lessons you learn. That way, if things go wrong, you won’t waste time wallowing in sorrow and regrets, but you will move forward with the power of your resilience.
Also, use a positive mindset when admitting your error or fault to yourself and others. Understand and showcase that your error is not your character. Apologize with humility while refraining from being defensive.
Your grace and gratefulness will put you and others at ease.
Replace Negative Language
In addition to the phrases above, practice changing the way you speak about life in general.
Change negative to positive adjectives. For example, instead of saying, “That sucks.” say, “That’s interesting.”
Also, remove any self-deprecating language from your vocabulary.
Claim or Create Goodness
Alright, maybe it does suck; somethings things are just not cool. However, there is always something positive or the ability to create something good. Look for the good in everything.
Can’t find anything? Sometimes positivity is what you make it. These are the moments when you make lemonade out of lemons or use your learnings to help others navigate life’s obstacles.
Establish a Real-World View
Do you have a Disney world view or a real-world view?
Place any perceived problem into context. Ask yourself how this issue will affect your life on the whole. Quite often, when we do this, we realize that what we initially see as a boulder is just a brick. In these cases, you have two options, move that brick or take the brick and build something.
Remove Yourself from Negativity
Don’t stay in the shade too long. Maintain a positive perspective by choosing to remove yourself from people and environments that do not allow you to see the sunshine.
Smile and Laugh
Besides looking on the bright side, also look on the funny side. A smile and laughter are not just the product of happiness but are a way to ensure happiness.
How and what you think should be determined by you. Look within; not around. Your outlook is how you choose to view the world. Cultivate a positive outlook by using the 7 tactics above, and remember your sunshine comes from within. Positivity is a choice; choose with elevate your positive vibe.